Due to the EHV-1 outbreak in the area, we are all kind of locked down for a while, meaning that I won't be taking lessons or hauling out anywhere. I just got an email on Monday night that the show I was signed up for this weekend was canceled due to the outbreak.
It's honestly a relief and means I don't have to forfeit the entry that I was going to have to if I had decided to go to the show. I was pretty sure I wasn't going to though, especially given that my horse is still learning to relax at his new home barn and I hadn't even gotten around to test riding when I actually could (if we stay long term, I will be finding a place to haul into that has a court for sure!).
| More positive tension at the ranch = more thoracic sling engagement, I think we're onto something here! |
With the show off the table, my main goal continues to be getting TC more comfortable at the ranch. He is getting better every single day and we actually had a FABULOUS ride yesterday!
He moved Thursday and I rode him later that day, then rode Friday, Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday. Today, I'm going to give him a day off. He does best with two dedicated dressage days, one cavalletti day, one trail ride day, and one stretchy day, plus two days off. Basically, the less you ride the horse, the better he goes (I always tell people I should ignore him for 3-4 years and then take him out at the GP). But not when he's nervous. All days are now stretchy dressage days except his days off until he settles in and then we'll start back on his schedule.
| Looking pretty good in those working gaits! |
He was okay on Thursday with his nerves. I hand walked him to the arena, walked him around it using the clicker to click for any kind of relaxation (head down, blowing nose, ears on me vs the neighbor cows, etc), then we got on and I just walked, trotted, and cantered around on the same circle at the far end of the arena. He was concerned about the horses not being nearby the ring, my dad dragging my niece around in her wagon, the dog running around, and the gate opening and closing. But really no antics, just lots of tension. At the end of the ride, I managed to ride him back into the barn and he seemed more okay with the activity when he was out of the arena.
Friday was much better, I actually rode him to the arena and he was much quicker to stretch forward and downward at all three gaits. I even dropped one hand off the rein and pretended to be a western rider at the canter! He is decidedly not a western pleasure horse though. He was still wavering back and forth between stretching and blowing (which I kept clicking for) and then getting tense and scooting a bit with his neck tight. At the end, we rode down the road a little bit and he saw horses in the pastures by the boarding facility next door and I think that calmed him down. By the time we came back to the barn, he was pretty happy.
That gave me the confidence to not ride him Saturday, give him a day to hang out in his paddock with the other horses and not be asked to do anything. He loves his job and he loves me, but I knew that he was struggling to be a good boy those two rides and wanted him to be able to go a day without having to try so hard. Just hang out, get used to the routine, play with Riot, watch the cows, and so on.
| Good boy |
Sunday was a big day for him as my brother, SIL, my niece, and my SO all came down to the ranch to hang out during the day and my parents were prepping to have two friends over for a BBQ later in the day (now that everyone is vaccinated, they're starting to socialize outdoors again, yay).
For TC, that meant dealing with: my brother and SO going out on a bike ride (so opening the gate, riding out on bikes, and closing the gate); my niece being pushed in the swing in the front yard and then being dragged around in her wagon; someone throwing a ball for the dog, her running to get it and bring it back, and then barking to get the ball thrown again; my dad cooking in the side yard and walking in and out of the house; my parents' friends arriving in their car (gate opening and closing again); and everyone chatting and waving at each other from afar.
It was a lot for him! He definitely wasn't as good on Sunday as he was on Friday, but that was expected after a day off and lots of activity. Again, I clicked for relaxation and gave him the benefit of the doubt when he wanted to stop and stare at everything going on. He scooted and bucked a few times and his transitions were... more exciting than I'd appreciate. But we honestly got a lot of good work done and we walked down the road and back both before and after the ride.
At the end, he walked right through the crowd of people and stood while four people (my mom, her friend, my brother, and my niece) came up to pet him and the dog ran over to lick his face and get groomed by him. He honestly loved it! He then walked through all the noise and people and wagons/picnic tables/swings/etc in the front yard to get back to the barn, not spooking once.
He's an emotional horse and because he's big, his nerves can make him seem like a LOT when they come out, but at the end of the day, I really trust him. He never means to do anything bad, he just gets overwhelmed with feelings about things, he gets trigger stacked easily. I think Sunday really tested our relationship and on the other side, well...
Monday he was an absolute dream. Stood perfectly still/relaxed in the cross ties even without the clicker (I've been clicking for not standing at the front of the cross ties pawing). He walked confidently down the road further than we've gone before. He has made friends with one of the pasture horses (from afar, EHV-1 and all) so that horse trotted up and down the fence while he quietly walked by on a loose rein. He dealt with cows and barking dogs no problem.
Walked quietly back to the arena where we had a FABULOUS ride, totally connected and stretching to contact the whole time. No spooking, no startling, no scooting, no bucking, very limited tension mostly due to the neighbor cows wandering up the hill behind us. That tension only led to him stopping to stare at them and whinnying a few times.
Then we went back to the barn where he hung out in the cross ties alone for a bit and then got hosed down while being ground tied to graze behind the barn (I'm going to make him a makeshift turnout there so he can graze every day). Then he quietly watched as I rebuilt his fence to give him more room in his paddock (that involved a lot of wire being moved around), and then when I gave him more space, he just walked around nibbling bits of grass and kept coming up to me with his ears pressed all the way forward as if to say thank you for the extra room.
Tuesday was much the same and we even went down the access road and he tried to cross the busy road heading toward the winery! In the arena we had our best ride yet.
We still have a ways to go, because I want to get him comfortable there to the point where I can start schooling the Third level stuff again. At this point, I think the added pressure of having to be in his collected paces and doing movements and all that is going to be too much. Until I can ride a walk to canter transition without wondering if it's going to land me in space, I think we'll stick to the stretching protocol. But honestly, we aren't far out!
I'm so proud of him for handling this. It's been such a freaking journey with this horse for the last six years. I think the biggest thing I've learned with him/from him is that sometimes things just take time and that we only hurt ourselves/each other when we rush things. It reminds me a lot of Warwick Schiller's podcast with Nahshon Cook that my friends recommended to me. In the episode, Nahshon spoke about a lot of really powerful things with our relationship with horses and it was really impressive, so definitely give it a listen. But one of the things that sat with me was a somewhat passing comment he mentioned about how he tries to "trust life" and in that moment I realized that I am TERRIBLE AT THIS.
I should probably dedicate a whole post to talking about that because it really has been a lifechanging thing for me, a typical type-A nutter butter, to tell myself "trust life" whenever I start to worry about stuff. Like trust life, Megan, things are going to be okay. And sometimes things that feel very not okay lead to things that feel more than okay so it's all okay. This move and the way things went in yesterday's ride make me almost grateful it happened the way it did. Hopefully this experience will make me better at trusting life.























